Relationships In Millennium

At Millennium, a lot of people live for drama. Luckily, I’m happy to give it to you. In our school, a relationship usually comes in the form of a friendship or a romance. This leads me to question these “relationships.” When we go to college, what will happen to them? What happened to past relationships? How do people feel about their current ones? Throughout this article, not only will you get the answer from others with experience with this topic, but what your classmates are genuinely thinking about their relationships.

Before we get to the details you’re scrolling through this article trying to find, let me introduce adult perspectives on friendships and how college can change them. I started with an interview with Ms. Peterkin.

Ms. Peterkin: “My high school was very traditional, like the scene in Mean Girls. I was in the marching band. I am actually still friends with my high school friends who were in the marching band. I’ve been to several of their weddings.”

Kai: “Did they go to colleges far away?”

Ms. Peterkin: “Yes, most of them went to Virginia colleges, one went to California, one went to Indiana, one went to Georgia. I went to NYU.”

Kai: “Do you think things would have been different if you all went to colleges with greater distance?”

Ms. Peterkin: “I don’t think so. I think I was in a special situation because of our close relationship through high school. I would say there are people in that group that have changed a lot and for some of them I am not as close as them as I was before due to different experiences. There are a lot of people in high school that I am not friends with now. Because high school can be superficial, there were people who I wasn’t friends with in highschool that moved to new york, but I am friends with them now which wouldn’t have happened back then due to the social groups.”

This highlights a possible bright outcome for students in Millennium, but what about the dark one? I decided to interview Mr. Garfinkel.

Mr. Garfinkel: “After high school, I went to college with my best friend and we actually roomed together. That was one of the best ways to grow us apart.”

Kai: “So what happened?”

Mr. Garfinkel: “It’s not like we dislike one another, we’re cool with each other. It’s just, we grew apart. He got a girlfriend and things just happened after that. A lot of the friends I had in high school I’m Facebook friends with. We aren’t actually close with one another.”

Many students have yet to think about the situations they can encounter with their friendships and groups.  If you’re a junior like me, it’s time to start. I wanted to dig deeper. I wanted to know what people thought about one another and their closeness. I went ahead and interviewed people from every grade about what they felt about their relationships with specific people, why they might not be friends with others anymore, and how they think about it. The point of this isn’t to expose people’s business but just to demonstrate how relationships can be changed. In the process, we gain advice. (Note: Romantically affiliated implies sexual relations. I have received consent to mention this from the person I interviewed. Remember, this person can be in any grade.)

Kai: “Were you initially friends before you decided to get romantically affiliated?”

Anon: “No. We weren’t friends, I just heard from a friend of theirs that they liked me.”

Kai: “Why are you not romantically affiliated with her anymore?”

Anon: “I just lost interest. That’s literally it.”

Kai: “Do you think that the affiliation ended on good terms?”

Anon: “Yeah, I’m pretty sure I explained myself properly to them.”

Kai: “Any advice?”

Anon: “You should talk to the person before you become romantically affiliated with them.”

Let’s take a step back here. Getting into an entanglement with someone you barely know can have consequences. You don’t have to rush any relationship with someone elseThe interviewer reported hearing barter from their friends about the situation, but let’s think about how the person on the other end felt. Talking about other people and the negative aspects of that situation is messed up. You should just let the situation go and move on. Relationships have a lot of turbulence and challenges that you either overcome or don’t. But that’s okay. It’s okay if your relationships don’t last forever, including romantic ones or “entanglements.” Don’t be too afraid to let things go. You may be opening up a new chapter better than the last.